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Today I’m going to share with you a personal story that I feel may help to give you context and hopefully will help you to practice Ahimsa more in your own life. Ten years ago I was in a very dark place; I found myself in what I thought was a loving relationship but actually turned out to be a very psychologically abusive relationship that resulted in me being completely isolated from my both my family and friends. At this same time I was also being systematically bullied in the workplace by one person in-particular. Whilst it is easier every day for me to talk about this experience because I feel like in some ways I’m speaking about a different person because I am so different to the person that I was ten years ago, if I’m honest, I don’t think I have truly forgiven the people who hurt me during that time. When I really think about forgiving one of those people in-particular I honestly don’t know if I will ever be able to forgive them, which feels very strange since I am all about forgiveness because it’s forgiveness that sets us free in so many ways. I know all to well that I still carry a the baggage of that time in my life with me to this very day. Although, whilst I might not be ready to fully forgive those people, I am open to forgiving them and that means every day I am one step closer to actual forgiveness. The grip is loosening every day so I know I’m not completely anchored to those experiences but I also know that I do carry them with me, and maybe a part of me always will. I don’t know why that is, I can’t explain it but I know that if I remain open to forgiving them, it will happen when the time is right and I’m okay with that
What I’m trying to get across here is that practicing Ahimsa takes so many forms and this is just one personal example. By not yet fully forgiving the people who have hurt me in my life, I carry the weight of that experience and emotional excess into all current and future relationships thus impacting on my ability to truly practice peace both with-in and with-out. But by accepting that I am human first and foremost I give myself the grace to not allow myself to be fully anchored to the person I was ten years ago who was going through this experience. That is the starting point. By remaining open to forgiving those people, I am shifting my mindset to a more positive outlook on the entire situation and trusting that when the time is right I’ll be able to look back and feel forgiveness in my heart rather than bitterness and resentment.Remember it’s not about perfection, it’s about creating that awareness so that we can take those positive steps each day, and it’s okay if they are teeny tiny baby steps because we’re still headed in the right direction and not remaining stuck in the quicksand of unhappiness
I said in the last episode that I found it quite easy to relate to Ahimsa initially because I immediately decided that I already practiced it by simply being Vegan, and whilst that is indeed one way to practice Ahimsa, I’ve learned very recently that it is not the only way that we can practice Ahimsa
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On Friday I’ll be sharing some self-enquiry questions and Affirmations to help deepen our understanding a little more